Steven,

I am not looking to be included, nor am I attempting to dictate how people behave.

What I am suggesting is that inter-cultural communication (if it is important to the group), to be done reasonably well, requires people to be self-aware regarding their cultural assumptions and prejudices. Additionally, for there to be effective inter-cultural communication between dominant and marginalized groups, those who make up the dominant group must learn to behave in ways which are different from the way they interact within their own cultural community.

That is my point.