SeanM: You don't like any tomatoes? Or do you just not like the varieties you've tried? (There are many varieties, y'know, with different flavors, in varying degrees of sweetness or acidity!)

I mention this only because Mrrzy doesn't like the live bands she's heard so far. If she finds one whose live performance is to her taste, who knows – she might become a groupie!

In the meantime, Mrrzy, you don't have to force or "train" yourself to watch or listen to a performance you don't like. Just try something else and see if you enjoy it! The house-concert idea sounds like a viable alternative; why not check it out? Also, what about outdoor folk-festival stage performances as opposed to clubs?