I've been married to two women, (not at the same time) and it would be easy to blame them for the split, but, I've never been able to kid myself. I believe that the main problem is not bad partners, but rather, inappropriate partners. Why do men seek out unavailable women? why do women seek out abusive men? SO WE CAN BLAME THEM INSTEAD OF OUR OWN POOR CHOICE OF PARTNERS! When I hear a guy say, "All women are users, and fickle bitches" or a woman say "All men are no damn good" I want to say to them, "There are plenty of good women/men out there, you just dont give them a second look because they are boring." We call it chemistry.