The Irish way is probably the best in my books, but in the North American society that we live in, there are to many obsticals. Like the church or other close relatives who wouldn't agree with going out in a party atmosphere. Here is my story with no wake per say. My father in-law passed away last February. Family and friends gathered in the small country church told stories about his life ( funny ones ). Had pictures displayed and slide show ( Pictures were not only of him but of his friends as well.). Food,and a little acoustic playing on the guitar was also present. There was no booze. Some of us did a little nipping later. I guess you could say this was the wake. However, what impressed me even more was when spring arrived we went to his favoriate spot in the woods (sugar bush), dug a hole, spread his ashes,then planted a Crimson Maple Tree. Now for someone who loves the woods. Maybe would agree with what took place, but I'm sure there are a number of mudcaters out there who would feel upset. To them, my apoligies