She made of her life what her circumstances (and 'protocol') allowed her to make of it. She tried to break out - maybe in a way that we consider 'wrong', but she did. And I agree it's a sad thought that her life might have been entirely different had she not been prevented from marrying Peter Townsend for what was even then fast becoming the most outdated of reasons.
Her family have a right to our sympathy as much as any of our neighbours, and mine is for the Queen Mother in particular who should not have seen this happen. I fear we won't have long to wait for more sad news! RIP