Married twice very happily - mother of five - wish I was still 17 stone but still have my health and the love of a good man! Its not what's on the outside but what's on the inside that makes you beautiful! God didn't make me fat - I suspect beer and chocolate were more culpable! By all means try to lose weight but don't expect your life to change drastically with the smaller waistline. You must learn to love yourself and then it will follow that others will do so!