If you have some ongoing health problem that you have not mentioned, where your weight endangers you then your doc has a point,and by all means ask him why he feels it's so important, but if everything else, blood pressure etc is fine, try suggesting to him that it's not conducive to your good mental health to be so negative. Family is family, they may be genuinely concerned (especially if you've told them that your doc is moaning at you) or it may just be that family always finds something to pick up on. Mine keep mentioning that my hair changed colour since the last time I visited. ( a different box when I shop gives them something to talk about) Friends - if all they see is your size and not who you are - are they worth it and is it time you found some new friends who appreciate you for who and what you really are. Size is an external thing and subject to change, it's who you are inside that counts.