"for fat people it's almost impossible to have sex. And absolutely impossible to have good sex."

Either you ain't getting out enough, or you ain't staying in with the right people!!!

There is such a thing as bad sex, but it is never impossible to have good sex. You just have to be a little more imaginative with your positioning. Even a skinny bod lying on top of you can hurt.... so experiment a little with X and Y formations and furniture supports..... go for it!!! And remember good sex doesn't have to be penatrative at all! Good sex isn't seeing who comes first or loudest, but who can give the most pleasure to the other. Good sex is about making your partner feel wanted and desired, and about feeling good and safe with each other.

The major hurdle to "fat sex" is trusting each other enough to take your clothes off. Once you have got over that, anything is possible. And presumably if you want to have sex with this person, you trust them. Go looking for a friend first, one who loves you and trusts you for what you are now, not who you could be, or who they think you ought to be. If you are embarassed, have the lighting low or stay under the sheets (that's sheets, not duvet and 6 blankets!). If you really don't want to be seen naked, get some seductive undies/night wear that can be 'worked around'. Even just 'going commando' can be naughty enough..... Lying down on your back whilst semi clothed can make your belly seem flatter, but the support is still there so you don't get the 'nipples in the armpits' scenario.... wear something silky or velvety that's nice to stroke and they might not even want to take it off....

Of course, this is from the female point of view... I can't presume to speak from the male point..... fat or otherwise....

LTS