I nearly posted to the other thread and then refrained out of consideration for people who are grieving. But then I remembered that the late Keith Marsden song, "Then all his other wives came in" was prompted by him overhearing someone who was afraid she'd be late for a funeral. Which was why the song asks to keep him on a low light because she might be late.... It's true that whatever and how bad the situation is there will always be at least two sides to it. And being deceived about your loved ones feels really bad however it happens.

Kitty