Kendall, a large proportion of yon 50% (divorces) break up within a short period of the marriage. The problem isn't that once the kids are raised, the parents go their separate ways - the problem is more that the parents have kids before they've decided whether they can stand to live with each other for the next 20 years to raise those kids.

There's nowt wrong with dropping in and out of relationships - shit happens. If you've married someone and find you can't hack life with them, then better to divorce than waste your life. And sexual polygamy needn't be an issue, depending on the attitudes of the ppl involved, so long as _their_ core relationship stays intact.

But to have kids _before_ you're both confident that the relationship is going to last for the duration of their childhoods - that's damn irresponsible. I agree with Kendall, children need more than one parent. Don't matter whether you're married or not, but if you're not going to stick around then don't bloody do it! It's not like contraception isn't easy enough these days...

Graham.