kiddingly referred to in some circles as 'serial monotony',,,*smile*

but, Carol is exactly right. As a "... mature adult who knows what she wants." she makes a choice based partly on experience, partly on 'feeling' that it is right for her.

I have known people who felt otherwise: some were successful, some not...for a WIDE variety of reasons.

Part of it is just mathematics....the more personalities involved, the more complex the equation becomes for adapting and tolerating. Add to that the 'time' factor in which the more 'partners', the less time it is possible to spend with each, and the trickier it is to maintain a bond. Not impossible, just harder.....It's not surprising that so many who think of poly as an 'adventure' discover that it is also WORK...and delicate work at that.