Saying "I wouldn't share my partner" is not a declaration of ownership of the other person, it's about owning the relationship. And in a partnership of two, it's not a majority rules situation, cause there never can be a majority. It's more like, ideally, both partners own 100% of the relationship. The word is consensus, I guess.

I've been married almost 18 years now, and we had this discussion early on...I might have been tempted to stray, but it was explained to me that my partner had a non-negotiable position on this issue. I could be monogamous with her, or I could go sleep with anyone I wanted, but not her (and find another place to live).

OK, she declared her conditions on continuing the relationship. But if the door is still open to leave, it's not the same as owning the other person.

All in all, it's worked out pretty well for us. You learn to live with tradeoffs.

W-O