Bill, I tried that with my brother, who goes on endlessly about his failures, which in itself is a big turn-off, I told him! Anyway, to hide his insecurity, he comes off all hoity-toity and offended by any helpful suggestions, such as try to talk about someone other than yourself!*bg* THEN, he overreacts and gets paranoid that he might actually be doing what I said he was doing and overreacts the other way...for a day or two, then it's back to tried and true.

I've always been completely honest. I knew, always, on a first date if there was going to be any kind of a future and would say so. Only went out on a blind date, once, and he wound up being my second husband two weeks later! THAT daughter didn't want to wait! She was knocking on our doors from the day we met. He came to my house for dinner and wound up teaching me to waltz. He told me years later that I made him really nervous. Seems I was watching our feet, so I'd be sure to dance correctly, while he thought I was staring at the bulge in his jeans!**BG** I did have more experience in seduction by then, but I swear that hadn't even crossed my mind, on a first date!

kat