Councilling only works if BOTH parties want to make it work. My wife and I had serious differences around affection. She chose a therapist, didn't like what the therapist said to her and that was that. She would have to do some work and that was not on the table. She wanted it to work, but, I would have to adjust to her way of thinking. I should have gotten a clue when I saw the note on her fridge that said "In this life, it is my duty to be self serving."