Kath, we all want to be good people and good friends, and most of us know what's right. Fewer of us are willing to go out of their way to help someone. It's that last thing, combined with opportunity, that makes heroes. As embarrassing as this may be to you, the rest of us need to say how good it makes us feel. But I won't mention it again, either.

Kendall, based on what I've heard here, it seems like you can trust this guy to weigh all the evidence and make a good choice for your treatment. You have a life filled with humor, music and good friends. Although the wait must seem like it's forever, it won't be. In the meantime, hang onto the good stuff.