I believe WYSIWYG Susan is suggesting that there are higher values that personal happiness---my own *or* my loved one's (which, if enhanced by me, in turn enhances my own as noted above, & thus is not altogether unselfishly pursued). This is a tough lesson. Most good ones are.

With Mr Red, Susan, I would respectfully demur on the ex cathedra proclamation (fergive me fadduh) that "People should not try to make each other happy." Putting it that way is a wee bit absolute, there. And while such effort indeed "can become unhealthy co-dependency", it does not *necessarily*.

But I agree that there are far more important things than happiness. Fortunately--given that *un*happiness, like sin, so pervades this world. (Saaay - is there a connection there?)

Now what all this says about A Man's Place, I forget right now. However, I just remembered I gotta go wash the dishes.