Amos, thanks for your good advice;I am aware of that:) I do practice personal spirituality.
The confusion of religion vs. spirituality ain't the point. Many religious people are excellent spiritual people. It's that religionists have to take some responsibility for their co-believers, and work to change the toxic elements of their common belief systems.

If one is a good christian/buddhist/muslim/pagan--ie you strongly believe in and PRACTICE the COMMON tenets of your belief system, you share some responsibility for your fellow believers' wrong actions that result from that belief.
At least one should condemn these actions, and work to change the aspects that lead to these perceptions.