If some new acquaintance says something about a good friend that seems insulting, I'm likely to take that personally. I'm not indifferent to it. They've got a right to feel that way, but I've got a right to feel they'll never be a real friend of mine.

And there are works of art, music, songs, that I feel the same way about. By no means all the ones I'm fond of and admire, but some. If someone really doesn't see them as valuable, there is a gulf between us.