The chances are to some degree that your friends are wearing costumes you have somehow designed for them. The filters make that aspect of them visible to your experience. Not to sound too much like a Granola bar. When you undo your own side fully, the things which you find distressing in them will also change.

Until then, stand back and breathe deep and let it chill, man; communication will arrive when the communicator is ready, to paraphrase a saying.

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