Dear Helen,

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to cancer in 1986; but, there isn't a day that I don't feel her with me in some way. Whether sudden or slow, the pain of losing a loved one is the same. Time may dull the pain a bit, but there will always be an empty space in your world. Just remember that she is always with you, in your heart and mind and soul. My mother had time enough to tell me that she knew I was 'grown up enough to deal with' her passing, and that she wanted me to be happy and well. And I think all mothers wish that for their children.

So, my wish for you is happy memories of your mum; hold them close to your heart and consider yourself lucky that you had her in your life as long as you did. And know that she would want you to be happy and well. Take care and yourself and your loved ones.

All the best, Áine