Well, WYD (and I think you might have meant WYDSIWYDG), I was not trying to assess what's wrong with Mudcat.... the first paragraph of my post addressed what I find troublesome about unidentified GUESTS. The second addressed my approach to living with others' "control issues" in the context of personal relationships:

The desire to control is rigid, and strategies in that regard are not intelligently accurate because it is a one-trick solution based on making the controller feel better for the moment. There are lots of ways to assist people who want to change, and most people do want to change despite the appearance they give. But hollering "STOP YOU BAD!" is seldom one of the effective ones. Real change happens in the crucible of closeness, and increased closeness is not facilitated by gagging someone as soon as you are close enough to do it!

(Of course ytou can't have a personal relationship with an anonynous GUEST.)

Another thing I find troublesome is that many of our GUEST posts show such a remarkable ability to take what one has said or not said, and to infer a whole BUNCH of stuff from that which bears no relation to what the person was actually thinking, feeling, or doing. (WYD's post is one of the more civil examples of this.) I don't know if this is because the posters actually think that they can read minds, and know everything there is to know... or because they just like to stir things up (for whatever reason) by miscasting reality on a regular basis. Fortunately the motive doesn't matter too much, because the remedy is the same in either case: it is reassuringly amazing how the truth about things can remain perfectly obvious even when this occurs.

~Susan