Be warned, Geraldine, I started just like you with a polite request and now I'm a Mudcat junkie.

The best source of tunes on line is probably

http://www.ceolas.org/tunes/#pdf

It's more a meta-site than a single site, but you could try rummaging around there. Some collections are in stave notation, some in ABC and some of the latter can be played with appropriate software.

You'll get the background to the words of "some say..." on this annex to Mudcat

http://sniff.numachi.com/~rickheit/dtrad/pages/tiDEILDEID.html

Unfortunately the tune isn't given there, but it's almost the same tune as "Maid will you marry me", so if you can't find it under one name you might get it under the other.