I'm finding this whole discussion of the use of the word "falling" really fascinating and if I were writing something - having now read this thread - I would consider doing just that: discussing the ideas/concepts behind "falling" in love. (Have a look at an etymological dictionary for a lovely surf through the interrelatedness of words and their origins. Mine is old, called Origins, published by Routledge & Kegan Paul, 1966)

Part of the discussion, like talking to myself in the mirror over a period of time, would be musing about why it had never "happened" to me (passive not active verb), why I had never experienced this thing which everyone talks about. And then, musing about what might happen if I did "fall", who it would be with, and how I would feel etc.

I can see this whole thread as a story, with different takes on the idea, with different people rolling the idea around like a new (OR previously experienced) and interesting chunk of food in their mouth - tasting, testing, evaluating, trying to put this whole experience into words, trying to explain the relatively unexplainable, trying to help other people to experience a part of what they have experienced.

It's a whole philosophical and emotional and scientific question: what does "falling in love" mean?

In my experience, I had only ever had less satisfying experiences of "love" and its variations, until I met up again (we were friends, but not close friends, more like friendly acquaintances, 15 years before) with the man I later married and realised within minutes of our initial conversation that "this was it".

Something significantly different happened to me on that day and although later I "fell" in the sense of having little control and of reaching the point of no return, it was that realisation on that day which was the start of something different from previous experiences.

Kat's idea of "falling upwards" describes it well because many of my previous experiences seemed to start from the not-much-different-from-ordinary and seemed to go downhill from there.

CapriUni, I hope we get to read this creation of yours when you finish it.

Helen