CapriUni,

I totally agree about *that* pressure - so then I tried for most of my adult life to pretend the pressure wasn't there, and look for satisfaction in work/career etc instead. But then I realised that it would be nice to find a real relationship based on solid foundations, so I shifted my priorities and decided to let career take a back seat to my personal life. Resigned from my stressful job and met up with future hubby within a week of resigning. Hmm! Where's Horatio?

By the way, for a new and interesting take on love, finding love, courtship etc try this book called
Searching for Courtship by Dr Winnifred Cutler.

http://www.athenainstitute.com/sfc.html

Usual disclaimers, no connection with company, etc, but this book really turned around my way of thinking about the whole falling in love thing.

Helen