I, like many others, avoid concerts like the plague or listen from way, way back (the bar is good).
All the sound engineers that I know have damaged hearing from too much too loud music. I do not intend to join them if I can help it.
I play accordion and practice quietly most of the time.
My hearing was damaged when I was a baby so I treasure the fact that I can hear at all and am desparate to conserve whart I have for as long as possible. If a concert is too loud I walk out and protest to the organisers. I have missed some top acts because of this but there is no way I will inflict volume reaching the pain threshold on myself. People who determinedly stay in the concert are mugs and until they start walking out en masse nothing will change.
YES I want to hear the act clearly but it does NOT have to hurt to do it.
As you can see this is a hobby horse of mine.