I would want to know so that I'd be sure to have the time to tell everyone how much I love them and try to get my affairs in some kind of order. Deep down I think most people know, regardles of what their families think they are shielding them from...there is an intuitive sense that clues them in, plus they can intuit it from the way their families act.

Good for you for caring so much. Sorry for your having to go through this.

kat