You all pretty much are thinking the way I am but...I have to remember this (this is literaly a text book case)

A Lady was badly eatin up with Cancer. The DR told the family but not her. She was told she was fighting a bad infection. So the lady purposed in her mind to get better & get over the illness. She did. Later everything was revealed to her & she said "Had I known diferently from what I was told, I would have given up. But because I was told I would get better I decided to conquore my fears & get well"

So I can see some positive reasons... which is one reason I will respect the family's wishes. But for me, I think I would want to know
Charcloth