'Scuse me. The sentence "Most love, I imagine, is "grown" rather than "fallen" into -- a gradual growing awareness of the value of this person or thing in your life. " was not supposed to be part of that last footnote.

I was going to comment on the question you raised, Ann, about songs about "growing in love," as opposed to "falling." The song that came immediately to mind is Lerner and Loewe's
"I've Grown Accustomed To Her Face"

Clint Black also has a song with that kind of theme, called "It's Something That We Do." [One line is "Love isn't somewhere that we fall, it's something that we do."

On the other hand, a song that I like that relates to the idea of "falling" as not so passive [brought to mind by your river analogy, Mc Grath] is Dan Fogelberg's song "Shallow Rivers".
Shallow rivers come between us
Where a soul can never sink.
Though we taste, we are yet thirsty
For a deep and soulful drink.

Grab me, woman, take me under
Till I can't tell up from down.
We have barely got our feet wet,
Now I want to drown.
...

I do like your essay very much, Ann, and I can relate to all the negative aspects of "falling" [both physically and emotionally], but I wanted to juxtapose them with the more positive interpretation,too.

Genie