Let's not overintellectualize. As the song says, "But not so deep as the love I'm in--I care not if I sink or swim." True love is a growth, a realizaion. My friend and I have known each other for about 15 years. As each year goes by, we get more into phase with each other and the relationship gets better. She was there to comfort me when I got divorced. I was there to perform the same for her. Now that we are on the same page, the relationship is wonderous to behold and experience. When I think of her, I tingle all over-still!