Toadfrog...I have in my head a half-remembered quote something to the effect that "it's better to stir up a controversy without deciding it, than to decide it without stirring it up"

the latter seems to be the preferred method among many...but I, and many others, do not agree...these issues MUST be raised & debated, even when it is awkward and when no easy solution is obvious. Ask yourself who YOU would designate to decide which ones were 'too sensitive'...and if some of our 'friends' are antagonized by public debate over this, we might well ask how good friends they are.