Thanks for the thread & your comments, Jack the sailor - I told off a good mate recently because he said he could really fancy a mutual friend if she didn't eat so much & lost weight. As I'm similarly overweight according to fashion magazines etc, I was annoyed at his superficial comment & said what I thought of it, so he backed off a bit. But it is a common attitude in our western society, tho not one I had expected from a very aware person like him.

ps. her partner obviously sees her as she is.

sandra