The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #50221   Message #763882
Posted By: GUEST,fretless, at work
12-Aug-02 - 12:34 PM
Thread Name: BS: mid-life crisis?
Subject: RE: BS: mid-life crisis?
I've gotta agree with GUEST,not my real name on this one. I spent a few years running a bar/pub-based Thursday and Saturday night folk music program back in the late 70s-early 80s. Great music (I did the booking and I booked music I loved -- how could it not be terrific!), wonderful people (including the woman I eventually married), even made adequate money. But eventually, I gave the program away because it was just too wearing dealing with the alcohol abuse. There wasn't much -- but it doesn't take much. Just one abuser in your weekly bar/pub event on Saturday night means you are dealing with an unpleasant situation EVERY week. And unpleasasnt situations are inevitable when you are dispensing alcohol.

This isn't entirely a morality issue, although GUEST,not my real name is sort of phrasing it that way, and GUEST nmrn has a valid point in this regard. But I would encourage you to think about this asa YOU issue, Lavender. Think hard before you put yourself in a situation where it is your responsibility as the publican to deal with the one jerk (or the one poor alcoholic bastard) in the crowd who is hell bent on making life miserable for everyone else. And think hard before putting yourself in the situation of having to accept the fact that you provided the substance that facilitated the jerk's abusiveness. Sure, the idiot will find another pub if your's isn't available. That isn't the issue. The question is whether you want to put yourself dead smack center in the line of fire on this one. I eventually decided that it was more fun being a patron at a pub than a manager; and when it came time for my mid-life job change, I went someplace else.