Max HAS said what his position is...it is to make the tech stuff work so that we can use this forum...he said specifically that our job is to learn to play nice! Joe Offer has taken the un-enviable task of deleting the most egregious threads...and has spoken out repeatedly about posts of bad taste which he didn't feel needed deleting!

You seem not to understand that, short of censorship, there is NO way to stop posting in an open forum! I am displeased with many post/threads too, and have said so (and a couple of times in PMs to the offending party when I could identify them)..but there are hundreds of regular posters with **different** ideas of what is funny, clever and rude, and frankly, I do not have the time to keep objecting.

Big Mick has said over & over & over that IGNORING them, as you would do when subjected to rude remarks on the street is the best, if not the most satisfying, technique!

I wish you were not 'anonymous'...it would be easier to debate/discuss this with a person, and not a ghost...but...*shrug*...(if you want to PM me privately, I would try to share some ideas gained thru over 40 years of respecting women and still recognizing my male perspective on what some of the offensive jokes and remarks are about.)

If you prefer to remain anon., please just try to understand that the complaints begin to be the issue, rather than the original remarks!! Demanding 'official' stands from the management is TRULY counter-productive, as NO 'official' stand would make a difference without censorship. Someone who, 2 months from now, is about to type a remark that YOU will find offensive will NOT go read a FAQ or analyze the 'guidance' perma-threads!

I like the Mudcat---have been here since the beginning, and have met Max, Joe Offer and many others LIVE, and I KNOW that they want it to be a good place. I also know that it is impossible to make it please everyone!

.....and I guarantee that righteous indignation, no matter how often expressed, will never cure the problems!

Still...you have every right to post your objections, just as those you object to will sometimes post more stuff.....

you pays yer money, you takes yer choice....