I was divorced after a long period of counseling. I have two kids by my first marriage. The kids will not be OK, but neither will you if you don't deal with this. The facts are that they will be severely impacted either way. Your obligation is to yourself and to them. One thing I would tell you is that you must tell the other person that you will see them on the other side. That will be difficult in your present state of mind, but I guarantee that he will only complicare matters at this point. You are not evaluating your relationship with him through the prism of an honest relationship. You are unhappy and he represents escape. As hard as it is, you need to think of yourself and your kids. If this person cares, he will understand.

Staying or leaving can only be based on your needs emotionally, and your duty to the children you brought into this world. Seek counseling, please, from a pro. Mudcat is fine such as it is, but it is not the real world. You don't need us to tell you anything. You need a professional, dispassionate, professional to help you see the truth. I truly hope you will seek that professional out.

Mick