Hi guest. I am the child of divorced parents. And guess what? I was thrilled when they divorced. Our home life had gotten so strange, and kids KNOW when thier parents don't get along. Get counseling, and figure out whawt you need. What your kids need are happy, well adjusted parents, whether or not they live together. Your new friend? I can almost guarantee that he is a rebound. Stay single for a while, or try separation. You may find yourself falling in love with your husband again. Or not. But find YOURSELF before anyone else. That is how you will be the most benefit to your children. Join the 'cat, and feel free to pm me.