If I may give the other side of the coin...

Perhaps your kids will be OK. Or maybe they'll be like a lot of other kids out there who look OK, but *are* wounded. Many children are willing to put up with weirdness in order to be able to see both parents daily instead of having to deal with the split homelife that seperation and divorce offers. If you want to hear it from the horses mouth, I'll let you talk to my mate. He's in his late 30's, and the divorce of his parents still impacts his relationships and daily life.

And, as every single counselor has ever told me; "It is not your mates responsibility to fulfill you. That's your job." Another person may be able to satisfy those needs for a time, but once the blush is off the rose, it's possible you will be exactly where you are now once again.

The idea is that we all need to feel whole within ourselves before even thinking about relationships. Meaning, figure out *you* before not only ditching the old relationship, but starting any new ones.

Otherwise, you may be on that same merry-go-round again...just on a different horse.

And another thing I heard quite often when in counseling; Love is not a feeling. It is an action. It is not how someone else makes you feel...it is what you do. Love begins with you.

I recomend the book "Co-dependent no more" by Melodie Beatty for illustrating what is and is not a healthy relationship.