You are doing the right thing. When my wife and I split, I was very angry. I thank her now. Our marriage was just making us both miserable. Our child was miserable watching us.

The most important decision I made was to stay very involved in my son's life. He and I have a good relationship and I have the pleasure of helping him grow up. Keep your husband in your child's life unless he is dangerous. You will all be thankful you did.

When I received the letter from my wife's lawyer, I called an old friend whose divorce I had had held her hand through. Her advice was simply to hang in there. My friend spent a lot ofevenings on the phone, getting me through. We did not resume our [more intense] relationship for several years after my divorce. It was worth waiting, even though there were many lonely nights.