This is a tough one, tryinghard; your kids do need you - and they need you across the table, not as a once-a-week visitor. But you need to be cared for, and cared about, too.

Maybe the secret isn't to make any life-changing *permanent* decisions; move out for a bit, see how it feels, maybe you'll move back in.

And think about it - is it possible that what you need isn't a new man, but a new job?