If you can manage to get down to Tacoma, check out the Victory Music open mikes. No doubt you'll find some S. King Co. people there; just strike up a conversation with somebody in the audience and let them know what you're looking for, and they'll probably know somebody who knows somebody... They also have an incredible newsletter, the Victory Music Review, which lists concerts and musical get-togethers all around the Sound. When I lived in Seattle (1985-90), I was active in the Seattle Song Circle, and I'm pretty sure we had some members who traveled from down your way, so you might want to check them out as well. You can find out about them--and lots more info--on the Seattle Folklore Society web page. Good luck! I know just how you feel...I'm an amateur guitarist and singer and just moved from a small town to the big city--and already I found a fiddler to jam with, and will be going to an old-time jam Saturday afternoon and an Irish singalong Saturday night! Yippee!

Aloha,
Mark