'Bout a year ago I was discussing( with the Exec Director of the YW) putting together a song/discussion session for girls called Oral Tradtition--Women's Wisdom in Song. The idea was to use traditional songs about violence, sex, drugs, & alcohol, and the consequences, using songs older than your parents.

Just perhaps, not reliving the past involves enough history to get a glimmer of the idea that you are not the first. They can be great discussion starters. Other things came up and I never got back to it... but it's still on the list,

My now 13 year old who grew up on violent songs said he thought they were reassuring as long as the bad guys paid a price/ got caught in the end. Sing what you enjoy and what they like...

Tinker