Well, I could have edited that last message more. It was a somewhat overly redundant towards the end.

I have enough problems figuring out if I should hug or not. The type of hug is not something I want to analyze. I don't want to predict whether a hug should be a barely-touching one or a serious squash. I usually go for the mid-range squash. Now, if someone just tells me they don't want to be hugged or gives me some idea what sort of contact would be acceptable to them, that's wonderful. Like I said, it's not the hugging/not hugging that are difficult, it's figuring out what's appropriate. If someone tells me, I don't have to figure it out!