Well this is a terrible difficult subject.Particularly (for me, that is) as the timetable tells me that me and Kate were probably the houseguests that drove the cat off.People do get uncontrollable( unconsoable) for a while with the loss of a loved pet and it's impossible to see how to help. Time and love. But working out out to apply the love is a tricky one. Just dont say "We'll get another one" too often ...but you already know that. I will communicate with P-vine and you direct. I am guessing she doesnt know you're asking on Mudcat, so I wont refer to it.
My sympathy to you ... Timmy had a a very funny face.