My heart goes out to you, Rev.Bobert , as well because the source of this cloudiness is out of your reach. Emotional turmoil such as this has to be weathered through and oyu may need to spend some time in your "confessional" ( that is to say your private recording studio out back ) and compose a song if just to keep yourself in balance.

This is , in no way , meant to be read as *insensitive* to your dear bride's mood, but I've been in situations when a significant other's mood was about something I was totally out of the loop for and just could not console what was so far out of my reach.

This sounds like it's just going to be a diificult time that has to be weathered through. You're obviously there for her and , like most guys ( me included ) we seek to remedy the problem believing the "effect" is actually the "cause". Only the women , themselves , feel what the cause of what they are expresing is and you just gotta be the "spotter" so to speak.

Suggesting that she congragate with high school reunionsits was a genuine "part" towards the solution in that she'll find that *female* counterpart to express her sense of the cause of this emotional sqwall.

I've learned that there are things that women can only share with other women to feel a connection the way all of us may only be able to consort with a select parent, grand parent, or lifetime friend outside of the relationship with the loved one whom we share a roof with.

Grief is a tough one. i remember how unconsolable my late Mother was years ago when she got the news her Mother in her homeland, Swtizerland ,was on her deathbed calling to see her, but she couldn't go in tiume because she had allowec her passport to lapse while her sister could go. That was a dark cloud over my childhood memory of our household let me tell you. She was inconsolable and my poor Dad suffered as much ,but more in the way you, Rev.Bobert are obviously torn up over "what to do".

just do what you're doing in showing your love to her, but you need the kind of replenishing that ,I suspect , comes from reaching inside and being *creative*. Time to go to the Blues medicine cabinet and "working it on out" and see where it takes you. Somehow it'll be good again.