I can't share your feelings, because I've never had to go through it. My father was taken to a lovely hospice, within hours of his terminal diagnosis, so he went in comfort, if not in his own home, which I know he would have preferred.

I can share your indignation though. We went through a similar thing in '92 when the Queen Mother had a hip replacement. My best friend's mother was told that she was too old and her quality of life wasn't active enough to justify the same procedure. The Queen Mother was nearing 20 when my BF's mother was born. QM is dead now, my BF's mum still hobbling around, in severe pain and still fighting.

Take him home Bobert, if he's cogniscent, then he'll understand and appreciate it. Take him home where he'll be cared for and you can concentrate on him.

LTS