Just a thought, Khandu, but when the big day comes round in December, no matter how you may be feeling about it, *celebrate* ! A couple of weeks ago I went to one of the best parties ever. It was my friend's husband's 50th. They hired a hall and disco and everyone arrived looking fantastic in 60s/70s clothes, and, of course, all the music was 60s/70s too. I came away with the feeling that the music, the clothes, the communal raising the roof singing "Hi ho Silver Lining" had had a deeper positive psychological effect on all of us than any amount of "ageing counselling" could ever have done.

- jeanie