Is it so difficult to understand, LH?
but we're coming out of a patriarchal age, so it hasn't been called that
My point was this line of argumentation, not whether there is/was a patriarchal age. I don't doubt for a second that we have been living for a very long time in such an age, but I doubt that this is the reason for the naming of 'patriotism'.
I just had a look into a German dictionary. There are more composite words with 'mother' than with 'father' and most of them have very positive connotation. I don't buy a reasoning that picks out one of these words ('fatherland') and explains them as resulting from the patriarchal age and shrug off all others ('mothersoil') as exceptions from a rule.
It could of course be different in English, but McGrath has given you more examples than I could have.