I find all this ethnic grouping stuff a bit confusing. How many can you be in?Only one, or lots? Are you necessarily in the same group as your parents (and what if they are different)? Who defines it, you or people discussing your case? Likewise" abuse": I've had the odd whack but I'm not sure I'd have wanted to dragged off to somewhere else.Having read all this, I find it all a bit strange. Time for self-examination: and I'm with McGrath...keep them stones in your pocket till you're sure.