My current lady once asked me if I thought that she was fat. My answer was twofold: 1) I don't judge others by criteria I can't be judged by and 2) Even with that as a caveat, you are not.

Older women have developed into people, not just duh kidz. It is similar to the line about faces: At 20 you have the face you were born with; at 50 the one you have earned. Either way, relax and enjoy what is there.

I do know it is more pleasure hugging a matured woman than a young'n. I wouldn't skip either one. It's even more fun when they hug back.