I've known (and envied) couples that seem to just be extensions of each other with both into folk music and supporting each other, playing with each other, etc. I've also known couples where one of them isn't interested per se, but is fully supportive, showing up at the club gatherings, helping, and just being friendly. I understand that they also support their spouse's interest in the same way. Not as great, but still pretty good.

Then, there are situations like mine, where "folk music" has become "my" thing. She liked it once, but now uses it as a point of division. If I propose a family outing that just might have a folk performance, or linger too long listening to a group at a festival I'm being selfish. She says she doesn't mind when I go to a sing, or when I'm off to the Getaway, however, it always comes back at me somehow in subtle and not so subtle ways. It's like she tries to make it a choice between music and family. Maybe it's because my interest in being active in music lay dormant for a long while and wasn't rekindled until my kids were born and I started singing to them at night.

Does your husband try to make your interest in music an issue? If not be glad and look for some shared interests.

Wishing it were different too.

JAB