All good advice McGrath. Like I said, these are all powerful emotions--my own grief, their own, I don't know really. All I can do is guess, knowing I may never be right. The desire to "unmask" someone perceives as one's opponent? Or unmask the unknown/anonymous intruder? To unmask my supposed identity and agenda, as Lepus Rex suggests? I don't understand the obsession of wanting to unmask a person's identity and/or agenda online, where most of us are strangers and will remain so, no matter how familiar we might be in the forum.

Sure a few people here have met one another, but really, how much does any of us ever know about another person, even our most intimate loved ones are a mystery to us. We are mysteries to ourselves.
The process of masking and unmasking ourselves, one another, it goes on and on our whole life long, so I just don't get the obsession with it here. Oh well.